The guilt won't let you sleep.
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They rewrote what happened.Your words didn’t.
The private journal for relationships that make you doubt yourself. When they twist the story, pull up your own words in seconds.
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Reality CheckJ
3 entries · your words, your timeline
- Tue, Mar 4 · 9:12 PM
Said I never told them about my sister’s dinner. I told them Sunday. They said “sounds fun.”
- Fri, Mar 14 · 11:40 PM
Voice · 0:48 · transcribedYelled about the dishes. Then said I’m the one who always starts it.
- Sun, Mar 23 · 8:05 AM
Said sorry. Said it won’t happen again. Third time this month.
The rewrite
It starts small. Then you stop trusting your own memory.
that never happened.
you're remembering it wrong.
you're too sensitive.
after everything i've done for you.
i was joking. relax.
you always make it about you.
You replay it at night. You explain, and explain, and explain. And somehow, you end up being the one who says sorry.
You
I was there. I wrote it down.
How Ickity works
Three steps back to your own reality.
- 01
Log it
Type what happened, or just hit record. Too upset to type? Talk. Ickity turns your voice into text right on your phone.
- 02
Tag who
Add who it was about. A name, a nickname, one letter. Only you know who “J” is.
- 03
Reality Check
When the doubt hits, tap Reality Check. Everything you wrote about that person comes back, in your own words.
For the moments that shake you
Your past self already wrote the answer.
They say it never happened.
You don’t have to argue. You were there, and it’s written down.
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Questions
Before you start.
Is Ickity therapy?
No. Ickity is a private journal. It helps you keep track of what happened, in your own words. It doesn’t diagnose anyone, and it isn’t medical or legal advice. If you want support, a licensed therapist who understands toxic relationships can help, and your Ick List can help you remember what to tell them.
Who can see what I write?
Only you. Your entries stay on your phone, encrypted, behind your PIN or Face ID. We can’t see, read or open them. Ickity is for you, not for winning arguments.
What if I’m too upset to type?
Hit record and talk. Ickity saves the audio to your vault and turns it into text right on your phone.
What happens after the free week?
Ickity is $11.99 a month or $71.99 a year, billed through Apple. The 7-day free trial is for new subscribers. To cancel, go to Settings → your name → Subscriptions at least 24 hours before your trial ends, and you won’t be charged.
Is it on Android?
Android is in testing now. Join the waitlist and we’ll email you the day it drops on Google Play.
Can I record other people?
Voice notes are made for your own thoughts. If you record anyone else, you’re responsible for following your local recording laws. Some places require everyone’s permission.
What if I’m in danger?
Ickity is not an emergency service. If you’re in danger, call 911. In the U.S., the National Domestic Violence Hotline is free and open 24/7: call 1-800-799-7233 or text START to 88788.
Your memory. Your record. Your reality.